Does Your Spouse Know You Are Thankful for Them? - Thanksgiving Devotional - Nov. 6

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Does Your Spouse Know You Are Thankful for Them?

By: Jennifer Waddle

"I always thank my God for you because of his grace given you in Christ Jesus." (1 Corinthians 1:4)

Every once in a while, it hits me. All that my husband does without complaint. And I wonder if he knows how thankful I am. It's easy to assume things, isn't it? Especially when you've been married for a long time, it's easy to grow relaxed and stop showing gratitude.

As you read this, think of the countless ways your spouse blesses you. The everyday things that often go unnoticed, and the bigger things that mean so much. Find creative ways to express your gratitude and let them know how thankful you are.

Tell Them in Their Love Language

Though it's been decades since Gary Chapman wrote The Five Love Languages, his insights are still relevant today. He says, "Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love."

Most of us have a primary love language in the way we give love and receive it, including:

-Words of Affirmation

-Quality Time

-Gifts

-Acts of Service

-Physical Touch

Which love language does your spouse relate to most? Tap into it as you show appreciation and communicate thankfulness.

Here are a few examples:

-Give them a card with a hand-written letter.

-Carve out a full day to do whatever they want to do.

-Give a gift "just because."

-Take on some of their tasks to give them a much-needed break.

-Offer a back rub at the end of the day.

Express thankfulness according to their love language, and notice how well they receive your gratitude. This might become a new way of communicating for both of you, leading to greater intimacy and appreciation.

Let Your Actions Speak Louder Than Words

When my husband laid our new floors a few years ago, I was extremely grateful to see the old carpet gone. I remember thinking how diligent I would be at keeping them clean and shiny as a way of saying "thanks." Fast-forward a few years, and I see how neglectful I've become. Especially during busy months, the floors aren't swept and mopped near as much as they need to be.

In many ways, our actions speak louder than our words. We can say, "thank you," or we can show how grateful we are. In what area of your marriage can you spring into action, letting your spouse know they're appreciated?

Remember Luke 6:31, when Jesus said, "And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them." (ESV)

Praise Them in Front of Others

If you've ever misspoken and said something embarrassing about your spouse in front of others, you know the terrible feeling of regret. But when you've pointed out their strengths and built them up, it feels really good, doesn't it?

Let your spouse know how thankful you are by praising them in front of others. As the conversation allows, interject positive things such as:

"He is so good with the kids, I never have to worry when he's taking care of them."

"He provides so well for us, and I truly appreciate his hard work."

"He's my best friend, the one I want to spend my time with."

Imagine how good it would feel to hear your spouse say such kind things about you. Giving praise where praise is due is a great way to show gratitude and encourage them to keep going. Don't assume your spouse already knows you're thankful. Find ways to let them know, and make gratitude a daily habit.

Let's Pray: Heavenly Father, please forgive me for the lack of appreciation I've shown for my spouse. They do so much for our family, yet I rarely communicate my gratitude. Remind me to thank them often by looking them in the eye and letting them know just how thankful I am. Show me creative ways to express my appreciation, serving them with love and joy. Slow my pace so that I notice their hard work and sacrifice. I'm truly grateful for the spouse You've given me, and I plan to communicate it more often. In Jesus' holy name, amen.

Application: How will you intentionally show gratitude for your spouse this week?

Challenge: Write a note of appreciation or find a small gift that expresses your heart.

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Jennifer Waddle is the author of several books, including Prayer WORRIER: Turning Every Worry into Powerful Prayer, and is a regular contributor for LifeWay, Crosswalk, Abide, and Christians Care International. Jennifer’s online ministry is EncouragementMama.com where you can find her books and sign up for her weekly post, Discouragement Doesn’t Win. She resides with her family near the foothills of the Rocky Mountains—her favorite place on earth. 

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